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Confessions of a Parenting Failure

Posted by Jay GuestFebruary 22, 2019

Have you ever thought that you had failed as a parent?  This happens to the best of us and it's nothing to be ashamed of.  In this blog,  I confess to my 3 failures so far...

It’s nice to blog about businesses and try to offer tips and advice but I also love to blog about certain aspects of being a parent. I am a doting mother of 2 beautiful kids and a devoted wife to a patient husband.

When I had my daughter, hubby and I agreed on a few things as time went on.

No iPad, no cooking different meals and not letting her eat chocolate.

It’s safe to say that we have failed on all of these.

The iPad ends up being a saviour when we’re travelling, visiting someone’s house or just to have some peace for 5 minutes (which ends up being an hour sometimes).

Eating chocolate just happened. It was inevitable that if daddy ate chocolate, so would she.

I’m not sure when making different meals began. When she was little, she would eat everything I put in front of her which most kids do. She then began to have a voice and with a voice, came the word ‘NO’. I can’t remember how it started happening, but she disliked some of the food that I’d always cooked for her. It was weird and annoying.

The next thing I knew, I was making different meals to please her. While hubby and I were eating the same food, she would be having something different.

I basically made a rod for my own back.

A few nights ago, I made a beef stew. Stuck it in the slow cooker in the morning and at 5pm, we sat down to eat and the look on her face was a picture. The look of disgust, as if it was absolute crap.

I asked her what was wrong and she responded with “I don’t like it”. I quickly asked her to try it and she point blanked refused. The bowl ended up on the kitchen side and she went without dinner that evening. I understand that there will be things that she won’t like and I’m not going to make her eat something that she finds revolting but when she won’t even try a meal, that irritates me.

She won’t starve but I am at the end of my tether with making different meals.

So don’t do it… don’t give in and try not to make my mistake. It’s harder to start again.

 

The iPad is so convenient at times. The agreement is, is that if she finishes her homework and does some small chores, she can have some iPad time. It’s not every day because when the battery dies, it’s her responsibility to ask me to charge it back up. If it’s not charged, she doesn’t ask for it. It’s so important to keep an eye on what they are watching these days, even though that’s easier said than done.

Chocolate was something that my husband started. He is a chocaholic himself, where as I’m more of a savoury person. I think once all kids get the taste of chocolate, you’re pretty much screwed. It is rationed though otherwise this is all she would eat.

There are all kinds of beliefs you may have. Some you stick to and some you don’t. It’s what you feel is right as a parent, but kids need to be kids and what will be, will be.

Good Luck!

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